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“How I Got To Know About Her Boy Friend Mathew, And Why Divorce Was Not An Option For Me” John Edobor Details Why He Stuck With Estranged Wife, Ivie Despite All Evidences Against Her At His Disposal
Husband at the other side of the news in recent time, John Edobor tells why he was not willing to divorce his wife, Ivie in the face of mounting evidences that dictated otherwise.
Here are inks to initial reports for background-
‘’On the day your wife’s leg go smashed up..what exactly happened?’’
‘’Well..’’ he said, paused and continued ‘’ because it was not what i expected and i don’t think it was the expectation of the boyfriend, Mathew..’’
‘’How did you known the man is her boy friend’’ i sought to know
‘’The children’’ he replied instantly and explained ‘’the children when they came to spend the midterm break with, the second one and the senior came to my room and told me, daddy daddy there is this uncle that normally comes to the house when you are not around ad he would sleep in mummy’s room and i said who is that and they said one Mathew and i said are you people sure of what you are saying and they said yes.
‘’that he would come and when he comes, he buys them Suya and would stay in the sitting room and after a while mummy and him would enter the house and he would sleep till the next day and i said are you people sure and they said yes. The thing took me unaware and i now said fine, just hold on and i brought out my ipad and i told them to repeat the same thing.
‘’but because the senior now looked at me and said Daddy are you recording us and i said no, i was just playing with my Ipad and i said repeat what you said before and they repeated the same thing and i said if that is the case, let me call Ivie and i called Ivie because she dropped and said she was going to the office and i called ivie and i said where are you and she said she was in the office and i said okay fine, see what the children said and she said it’s a lie and before i knew it she rushed down and wanted to start beating the kids and i said you cant beat them now..this thing is on record.
‘’I now played it to her and she was shocked. Her intention was actually to stop them from speaking’’
He paused and i threw in a question and she didn’t attempt to take the video from you?
‘’She couldn’t have..because it was with me’’ he stated simply.
‘’and when i now played it for her to hear..she was like she was sorry, that it wasn’t true that the man slept and i told her no, children don’t lie and you are pregnant why would you be allowing such..you are sleeping with me telling the children, the twins you are carrying are mine and there is a man that comes week days to come and sleep with you and is name is mathew, so who is telling lies, you or the kids and when she saw my emphasis.. she now started begging that the man comes and wait till around 12 but doesn’t enter and i said no children don’t lie..they see you and him entering the room and not once or twice and when he comes, he buys suya for them
‘’She now agreed and now pleaded she was going for confession..i have a chat to back up my point..
‘’So, that was when you knew something was going?’’ I asked
‘’Yes’’ he stated emphatically
‘’and she was pregnant’’ i wanted to reconfirm.
‘’She was pregnant’’ he echoed in confirmation and continued ‘’ yes, she was already five months pregnant, this was June and at that point i was like fine you said you want to do a confession but this children you will give birth to them but you will need to do a DNA to actually know who the father is, because it was already five months…because she took in, in November and from December to that time was like 6 months, so you’ll need to do a DNA
‘’It was when i said that she reacted and said that if i am denying the paternity of the children, she was going to flush them out and am like
‘’Flush out 6months old pregnancy?’’ i asked
‘’Yes she said that’’ he asserted and continued ‘’and i said flush this children out and she said since i don’t want to take responsibility as their father but i insisted on the DNA test, if i was a wicked person was that not enough reason for me to
‘’But you forgave her?’’ i wanted to know
‘’At that point in time yes, but i insisted on the DNA and she went for confession on a Sunday and she met one Reverend father (at St Dominic, Akoka) and the Reverend father even advised her that you see, what you have done is abominable and as such now that you have taken the right steps, don’t go back on it
‘’Where you called for counselling too?’’ i asked
‘’Yes, i was in church that day, yes they called both of us and counselled us’’ he confirmed.
‘’So, after that you let go off the matter?’’ i prodded
‘’Yes after that i did but when i got a call from the house help again
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‘’How long after the confession and counselling was this?’’ I asked
‘’Like three or four days after i think, this was a Wednesday or Thursday that i got a call from the house girl that Mathew came back to the house to sleep and i said fine no problem and i called my mum and i called her father and called her own mother and her aunties and to my greatest dismay
‘’the father said i should come and see him in the house on a Saturday which i went and i told him and showed him some of the chats and evidences and he said well, he was going to talk to Ivie and that was his response and till i speak with you, the father did not do anything …
‘’buy you continued seeing her after that?’’ I chipped in
‘’Yes we were seeing’’ he said and continued ‘’ we even went out but at that point in time we were no longer getting intimate
‘’You still go to her house during this period?’’
I asked ‘’ofcourse, i still go to see my kids but after the revelation that she was seeing Mathew i stopped sleeping at the place but all i could do was go there see my kids and come back’’
‘’when all this was happening..why didn’t you walk away from all these’’ i asked
‘’Walk away when i still have my kids there?’’ he asked me with disbelief .
‘’Did you attempt to take the kids?’’ i asked
‘’Yes’’ he stated and reconfirmed ‘’i attempted to’’
‘’what happened?’’ i sought knowledge of outcome of his effort.
‘’she resisted it’’ he stated and explained further ‘’and it’s like the smallest one was too small one needed her mother’’
‘’But why would you want to become involved with a woman who did all these things you listed out, why didn’t you opt for divorce?’’ another question came in.
‘’Well, as a Christian even when we sought counsel in church, when we spoke to her aunties and everybody they said divorce was not an option for us and i was actually trying to
‘’But it is now?’’ now i threw in , in reference to ongoing moves by the wife at legal separation.
‘’Well, she applied for divorce not me..she applied for it’’ he drew out
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